E278 | Melissa Vranjes

Show Notes | Melissa Vranjes

00:00 Teaser

01:34 What a sex & relationship coach actually does

02:10 A confession: mismatched libido

05:33 Sex as connection, and the willingness to meet

07:54 The case for a self-pleasure practice

10:10 Libido vs exhaustion with young kids

11:00 Ovens vs gas hobs: how desire differs

15:59 Sexual currency

18:26 The shame around sex, and how we were raised

21:50 Melissa's story: superyachts, Bali & learning pleasure for herself

28:42 BJ Like a Boss & the hen's-party workshops

37:46 How much sex is "normal"?

42:56 The weekly relationship check-in

45:58 Communication, and why intimacy isn't sex

49:10 Listener Q&A: finishing too fast

52:56 "Am I being selfish about sex?"

59:10 The "runway": bridging back to intimacy

1:02:49 Coming back from a dead bedroom

1:06:26 Feeling like yourself again after kids

1:11:32 Choreplay: the mental load as foreplay

1:15:10 Char joins: dating while newly single

1:20:15 Dating apps vs meeting people in real life

1:24:18 Working with same-sex couples

1:27:09 The "stingray" technique

1:31:07 Good sex without orgasms, injuries & humour

1:35:16 Sex lore: fact or fiction

1:48:16 Best advice, and what to stop feeling guilty about

1:52:02 Gift time: the pleasure-tool unboxing